Upon writing this, I am reflecting upon therapy clients who seek help with anxiety. While each has a different story, there are common themes: Experiencing ambivalence about many things Feeling unfulfilled and unfocused Grieving lost hopes and dreams Fear of uncertainty Not enough time In a joint effort to combat the indecisiveness, racing thoughts, and […]
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Speed Up Your Thinking to Slow Down Your Life
Poor anxiety! You just can’t catch a break, can you? If it’s not one thing, it’s 27 others all coming at you like a freight train. Think positive; practice mindfulness; don’t look behind you — you’re not going that way; stop being anxious!; do deep-breathing; take five breaths; count to 10; wait — why can’t […]
22 Calming Quotes for People with Anxiety
1. “P.S. You’re not going to die. Here’s the white-hot truth: if you go bankrupt, you’ll still be okay. If you lose the gig, the lover, the house, you’ll still be okay. If you sing off-key, get beat by the competition, have your heart shattered, get fired…it’s not going to kill you. Ask anyone […]
22 Quick Tips You Can Do Today to Change Your Anxiety Forever
You can read all the anti-anxiety advice in the world, but none of this matters unless you take action. To feel more relaxed, to sleep soundly at night, and to put energy into what matters, you have to stop wasting time on tasks that don’t matter. By the end of this article, your life could […]
10 Positive Psychology Practices for Boosting Happiness
You can read all the anxiety advice in the world, but none of it matters unless you take action. To feel better you have to ruthlessly focus your efforts on those things that reduce your anxiety, and increase positive emotions, and stop doing the things that keep you down, tense, and awake at night. Today […]
What to Do When Your Anxiety Just Won’t Quit
“Every time I think my anxiety is gone for good, it comes back worse than before. Can you help me?” From time to time I get email asking for advice on how to make anxiety go away. For some reason I’m reminded of a rude houseguest, or a family member that lingers and looms. […]
A Helpful Guide to Healthy, Thriving Relationships
Healthy, Thriving Relationships is a favorite module within Team Happy. If you’re looking for skills to help you avoid or break unhealthy relationship patterns, you’ve come to the right place! For immediate access to my interview with couples therapist, relationship expert and founder of The Good Therapists, Alison Crosthwait, click here. Relationships form the […]
Relationship Detox: Letting Go of Unhealthy People
Nobody is going to take care of your emotional health. Ever. You can get someone to pay your bills, watch your kids, run your company, but nadie is going to stand guard over that precious real estate inside your head. And that’s a good thing. When on your death bed you need clarity. Or […]
Decluttering: Why There is No Magic to Tidying Up
I got an email recently asking for advice about boundaries. The recipient related how he was feeling depressed and fighting regret after “cleaning house.” The paradox was not lost on me. We’re often reluctant to let go. Yet being weighed down by possessions and people hinders our emotional well-being. Whether it’s a living room crammed […]
Spring Cleaning Your Soul — Motivation
This article is the first in a series for the month of April. We’re spring cleaning at Team Happy, and each Monday will bring a new theme helping you to clear the clutter from your mind, your body, and your physical space. For some, spring cleaning has excitedly begun, while others need a gentle psychological […]