Several years ago I wrote an article called The #1 Reason Angry Couples Stay Together that got a lot of people’s attention. It became quite successful and resulted in a lot of big websites copying, pasting and quoting its content. Mostly because pairing two volatile topics like strong emotions and high-conflict couples means […]
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Mindfulness for Beginners: Video
In this short video, we’ll talk about the basics of mindfulness so you can get started. The essentials are covered in a simplified, brief overview. It’s perfect for creating the habits of mindfulness and mediation. In this video we learn: 1. The concept of mindfulness 2. Paying attention on purpose 3. Being immersed in the […]
Video: Meditation for Beginners
“Smile, breathe and go slowly.”~Thích Nhất Hạnh Perhaps you’ve wanted to mediate to calm your mind but don’t know much about it, or how it helps. If so, you’re not alone. Meditating is deceptively simple, or excruciatingly difficult, depending on who you ask. Common questions include: Do I need training? How do I sit? […]
Anxiety is a Mindfulness Problem
We all get nervous, unfocused and stressed, and for the most part, we all know the common solutions to ease our anxiety. For example, I avoided writing this article in a timely manner by doing a bunch of mindless tasks. Zoning out was meaningless and I knew it, but watching videos of Siberian Husky pups […]
You Can’t Hack Your Inner Self, But You Can Still Be Happy
Lunchtime conversation last week: Friend: Have you seen this new online program on happiness? I saw it on Good Morning America. It’s pretty cool, and quite similar to your membership site, but there’s no interaction with a therapist or a coach. It’s all digital. Oh, and the design is really tight… Me: Digital happy-making, I […]
The 10 Best Things You’re Not Doing for Your Happiness
Despite the best of intentions, most of us go about the business of being happy the wrong way. It’s easy to talk about what changes you’re going to make to increase positive emotions and have healthier relationships, but talking rarely translates into swift actions in the right direction. There’s two common problems here: 1. Talk […]
The Painful Truth About Happiness
By the time you finish this article, you will be 240 seconds closer to death. In fact, with every second that passes, you are nearer to Meeting Your Maker. The thing about life is nobody get’s out of life alive. Dying is inevitable but living is not. The irony is how we avoid both: As […]
3 Ass-Kicking Explanations for Why You’re Still Settling
In my life, I’ve settled many times. I’ve settled to keep the peace, and I’ve settled for peace of mind. The time I finally said ‘fuck it’ to settling has made all the difference. Half-assing my way through Community Organizations class at the end of grad school because I had the foundation to do good […]
The Two Most Important Words Ever
How bad do you want happiness? If you had to rate your efforts for the past twelve months from 1-10, what’s your number? I honestly think most people reading this think they’re doing the happy hustle, when in reality, they fall way short. There’s many variables for sure, but in the end, happiness (defined here […]
Why the Minimalists Shall Inherit the Earth
I used to be a mental hoarder. Every third negative thought, bad memory, and personal slight was filed in the memory bank collecting interest. I held on tight for two reasons: 1. Occupying mental real estate with negative content meant I wasn’t “cheating happiness.” Translation: Around-the-clock pre-emptive worrying meant life might spare me a random […]